They can help me there
A student counsellor will listen to you, provide support during a difficult time and offer a different angle or perspective on things.
During the sessions, you can gain a better insight into what is going well and what isn't, as well as searching for solutions to your difficulties. Student counsellors and therapists can help you get your life back on track.
I don't have to do this by myself
Asking for help from a student counsellor does not mean that you get to exchange all your worries and problems for a package of solutions. However, the counsellor can help you find ways to cope with your difficulties. Tapping into your own potential and power plays an important role in this process. Sometimes asking for assistance is much more courageous than plodding on all by yourself.
I decide what I want to share
There are no musts during counselling. You can share as much or as little as you want to. You can always make it clear that you want to tackle the problems in the here and now, and that you can't or won't discuss certain things. Every question and comment is an invitation which you can choose to accept or not. You can talk about your past or your youth but there is no obligation.
Talking about it can help, even if you've told others in the past
Counselling and psychotherapy are not the same as 'talking about your problems'. There are two big differences.
Firstly, a professional counsellor will help you gain a better insight into your problems. Why do you think, feel and do this? How are the various reactions and thoughts related?
Secondly, the therapist is not involved in your problem: he or she will not try to give you good advice. Someone who views your story 'from a distance' will help you do the same. You can often come up with better solutions if you look critically at what is going on, what happened or what should happen.
I feel terrible, but there is no clear reason for this
Who can judge who does and does not have a reason to feel bad? What matters is that you don't feel well and that you have the right to be happy. There is always a reason or an aspect of your situation which makes you unhappy or unsatisfied: people don't feel sad for fun.
I feel like an outsider
In Flanders, 24% of people have to cope with 'at least one period of depression' during their lifetime. At university, too, students frequently rely on the Study Advice and Student Counselling Service to discuss a whole range of different problems.
Student counsellors have to respect patient confidentiality
Student counsellors and psychotherapists are bound by the principle of professional secrecy. If a counsellor wishes to contact a parent or lecturer, he or she always needs your permission to do this. The counsellor will only take action if you indicate that you might endanger yourself or someone else.